Criticizes you for showing him attention.Appears reluctant to kiss you, or show affection toward you.Shows a "new talent" in the bedroom (that they might have learned from the individual with whom they've been cheating).Starts to request kinky or other erotic sexual activity (behavior) that you've never done before, including watching porn.Is no longer interested in sex, or he makes excuses for its infrequency.Stops wearing his wedding ring and when asked, can't give a reasonable explanation.Develops an increased focus on losing weight or pays more attention to their appearance.Asks about your schedule more often than usual.Sometimes this is just an attempt to justify their cheating…or to give them an excuse to storm out of the room/house. Begins to speak more and more harshly to you, or is more sarcastic.Gets dressed up a little too well for trips to the grocery or running some other kind of errand or menial task.Arrives home and heads straight into the shower/bath.Wears cologne much more often than usual.Comes home smelling of an unfamiliar fragrance.Is frequently tired or lacks interest in the relationship.Appears distant, shows a lack of interest or develops an unexplained aloofness.So, let's look at just a few of the behaviors that you might observe, if your loved one was being unfaithful: Usually, the thing that will tip you off is a change in behavior. While none of these "red flags" automatically mean you are being deceived, they should be regarded as possible indicators of deceit, to determine if further investigation is warranted. So, let me share with you a number of subtle (and not-so-subtle) clues that you should be aware of, should you suspect that your spouse or partner is being unfaithful. When in doubt, check with your attorney or other legal advisor - especially in matters regarding your partner's privacy. Throughout the years, I have become sensitive to the "red flags" that may indicative that someone in a relationship was being unfaithful.Īlso, please note that I am not an attorney and am not providing legal advice. I have been a private investigator for over fifteen years and have conducted many domestic investigations, performed many background checks, and many, many hours of surveillance. You begin to speculate: What did I do to drive him away? Did I love him enough? Did I smother him? Will I ever trust him again? Will our relationship ever be the same? What does the other person have that I don't? After a while your health can suffer and your performance at work can suffer. It can cause insecurity, anxiety, fear, sleeplessness, depression, and can occupy your thoughts and mind all hours of the day and night. Suspicion of infidelity is a horrible thing.